Size Doesn't Matter

My wee mixer 

The Legend of DJ Red

As you know, I'm here in New Zealand to pursue a PhD, but as that wise philosopher Cindy Lauper once noted, "Girls just want to have fun."

When my working day is done (usually around 4-ish) I want to have fun by playing music that will make people dance.

I've missed Dj-ing at Indian Summer and the MIIS Social Hour in Monterey.

My one night out in Christchurch lead me to believe there was a musical niche for me here somewhere and I made plans to speak to one of the club owners at some point in the future.

Instead, I stopped in to a rather large Irish pub on the way home from Christchurch one night and casually mentioned to the owner that I was a DJ.

It quickly became apparent that he was interested in having me play at the pub.

I wish all job interviews could be that easy!

We met a few nights later and I brought in my laptop so I could show him the DJ program I used and the type of music I had on hand. He liked it and we agreed that I would start on Saturday.

"What's your DJ name?" he asked.

I had been thinking about this for a while and still didn't have a good answer.

"How about DJ Red?" I said finally.

I wear a lot of black and red when I go out and this was just an abbreviation of the "Little Red Riding Hood" nickname some of An's mates had given me.

"You could say I'm direct from the U.S.," I told him, "It makes me seem like a mysterious import."

He next asked me if I drank while I DJ-ed and if I had some colorful past I was running away from.

"Alas, no," I said. "I had to go through a pretty rigorous health and background check to get my student visa."

I told him of my honorable discharge from the military and my pursuit of a PhD at Lincoln.

He seemed slightly dismayed that the legend of DJ Red wouldn't contain any undertones of scandal or criminal misdeeds but he was still cheerful about my upcoming debut.

He asked if I had any requirements while I Dj-ed and I said I wanted all the free tap water I could drink.

"Seems fair," he said.

I left the pub feelings a little nervous and hoped I hadn't gotten into anything I couldn't handle.

I went to a music shop that sold Dj equipment and bought a teeny tiny little mixer made by Pioneer. It was so small that the guy selling it to me applied the word "wee" to it.

In New Zealand the term "wee" brands an object with an adorableness that strips away any chance the object might have had of being taken seriously.

I bought a "wee" tool kit from the local hardware store not long ago. It contains a wee tape measure, a wee hammer, and an assortment of wee nails. Due to its wee-ness I will never be able to take it to a construction sight without being laughed at. Luckily, I don't foresee getting any invitation to work at a construction site any time soon.

The wee Pioneer mixer wasn't my first choice- there was a Numark which I took a shine to but for some reason they had switched to another type of Dj software that I was unfamiliar with.

I didn't want to lose my membership and remix cache with Virtual DJ and since the Pioneer came with it, I bought it.

I decided not to hook up the mixer for my first gig because I knew I would need to familiarize myself with it at home first.

Saturday night wasn't bad but it was a bit of a learning experience as far as what sort of music to play for whom and when.

I spent most of the night shyly stooped over my laptop trying not to draw any attention to myself.

There is a phenomenon here where bus groups come through and disgorge a bunch of (often costumed) young people who drink and dance for about 30-minutes before moving on to the next venue. I had never seen anything like it but the groups do fill up the dance floor quite nicely.

I also learned the term "bogan" that night. It's what they call rednecks here (and would be an apt description of some of my cousins back home).

21st birthday celebrations are also a big deal which surprised me since the legal drinking age is 18. I was told this wasn't always the case and that it used to be 21 so the date is still special.

A group of friends will all go out to drink and dance and at some point they will stop the music and make speeches for the birthday girl or guy.

It was really sweet to watch people take a microphone and recall their fond memories from the celebrant's past. After that concluded, the birthday person drank a bunch of shots and then her entourage hit the dance floor with a vengeance.

I had a very interesting experience with one party-goer that evening but I think I'll keep that story to myself for now.

Last Saturday I returned to DJ with my new mixer and the carrying case.

I got a small thrill when I saw a poster the pub owner had made for "DJ Red, Direct from the U.S.A."

We had two bus groups, one 21st and one rugby team who stopped by that night.

I got several compliments on my musical choices as well as being told I was "gorgeous" by a ridiculously good looking Maori guy.

At some point, a drunk rugby player wandered over and said, "Can you turn up the music sweet-aht?" and I almost said, "Sure thing, sweet cheeks," but decided against provocation at the last minute.

I had a good night and stayed hydrated with lots of free water ( I know my worth dang it!)

I'm looking forward to growing the "Legend of DJ Red" in the coming weeks.

The Playful Otter

This otter came out to greet us at the Willowbank Wildlife Reserve in Christchurch, New Zealand.

All the Places I Haven't Been

I bought this thing called a "scratch map" which shows the world covered in gold.

You take a coin and scratch off the gold over the countries you've visited. Each one is a different color.

When I stood back to admire the places I'd been I realized that I have seen nothing of the world.

I scratched off the whole of Canada although I've only ever visited Ontario. For this reason, I left Alaska and Hawaii untouched.

The same thing happened with China. I've only wandered around the northeast and yet I scratched off the whole surface. I felt like a bit of a fraud for that.

The first country I ever visited outside my own was the Bahamas. This required the tiniest scrapes to reveal their colors.

France, England and Italy combined make a decent showing but Chile is barely noticeable and New Zealand is so small!

Mexico and the continental U.S. were the only two countries I felt honest about uncovering in their entirety (even though most of middle America is unknown to me).

It is amazing how we give each other credit for being knowledgeable about the world and call ourselves well traveled when most of us have only set foot in a few cities for brief stays.

There is so much more to be seen and I hope I can get to it before my mortal limits have been reached.

How Green Was My Valley?

Akaroa Harbor

* A Shyness That Is Criminally Vulgar

I am a self-avowed “bird nerd” and one of the varieties I missed on my last visit to Aotearoa was the Little Blue Penguin. I knew some nested around Akaroa Harbor so the NPR and I headed out that way (with me driving in typical geriatric fashion).

On the way we stopped at a hilltop restaurant where we met a nice Frenchman who referred to us as “girls.”

The NPR and I went outside to take in the view of the harbor and hills and we stayed out until the Frenchman opened the door and said, “Girls, ze pizza eez redee!”

When I revisit this scene in my mind the Frenchman is wearing a little beret and has a curly mustache. Also his words are modified to say, “Girls! Zee pizza, she is ready! Haw haw, baguette!”

Because my memory thrives on stereotypes.

Akaroa was the sight of the only French colony in New Zealand. This fact prompted the British to quickly draft an agreement with the Maori before the Fleur de Lis lovers could further horn in and Gaullify everything.

Today one sees the Tricolor all over town and many of the streets and buildings have French names.

Everywhere I went people told me it was the wrong season to spot the penguins. Quelle dommage!

I bought a sandwich on a pier and tasted some delicious fish I had never heard of before.

As I was walking back down the pier I passed three guys speaking Spanish.

“Oye!” I shouted after them.

All three of them turned toward me in unison.

I asked where they were from. Two were from Spain (meh) but the one in the middle was from the D.F.

I have never been happier to see a Chilango in all my life.

I told him NZ was a perfect country in almost all aspects except for the fact that it was lacking Mexicans. (Because of this I have gone into tacos al pastor withdrawal.)

It was fantastic to see one of my gente adoptada down here at the world’s end.

By about 3p.m. the NPR had morphed into a cranky pants and she insisted that we go home.

There is a small town called Tai Tapu on the way back and I decided to pop into some of the shops there.

In one of them I met a nice girl my age.

I ended up telling her about my misadventure in the Famous Grouse (the one with the jug of coke, Stud Magazine and the “forever alone” seat in the corner). It turns out she and some of her friends had been in one night as well and they were also ignored.

I felt a little better knowing it wasn’t just me.

She said she and a few friends were going out to Christchurch later that night and that I could come along if I liked.

I accepted immediately and promised to change out of the oversized sweatshirt and dirty jeans I was wearing (I call this look “doctoral candidate casual”).

In my excitement, I ended up driving all the way to the bar with the back windshield wiper going. There was no rain- I’m still just confused between the turn signal and the wiper handles which are on reverse sides in this country.

I arrived early and ended up sharing a table with two women who were very friendly. They left a little after A1 and her friend A2 arrived.

We got some drinks and I remarked that there were a lot of handsome guys around.

That’s when I got a bit of bad news.

“Kiwi boys are all shy and if you want one, you have to make the first move,” A1 said.

“The good news is that the women call all the shots,” A2 added.

“Hello celibacy,” I thought.

I looked around again and noticed all the men were standing in protective groups with their mates.Sometimes they would cast a wistful glance at a girl but if she turned toward them their eyes quickly fell toward their shoes.

We bar hopped to a few other locations and at one point, we passed a group of guys. One of them walked toward us and said, “Do you know about the Regular Show?”

“I do!” I answered thinking of Mordecai and the strange bubble-headed character.

Nerd bait had been laid out and I had taken it.

A1 linked her arm through mine and whispered, “Don’t engage” in my ear. She shook her head slowly and insinuated that we didn’t want those sorts of guys talking to us.

At the next bar A1 became reflective over her gin and juice and told me that her older brother still lived at home with their mum and was extremely co-dependent on her.

“She actually still blow dries his hair,” she told an incredulous-looking pair of listeners. “My mum came home one day to find him with a girl in his room and she said to me, ‘that girl had the nerve to rub around on his chest hair as if it was hers!’”

The hilarity of this was amplified by the way she mimicked her mother’s voice and the fact that the Kiwi way of saying “chest hair” sounds like “chist hiyah.”

Apparently, her mum was also pissed because her son’s hair was all messed up because she had just blow-dried for him that morning.

“I think there’s a movie in there somewhere,” I told her.

A bunch of A1’s guy friends met up with us later and one of them seemed to take a shine to me.

He called me Little Red Riding Hood in reference to the bright red coat I was wearing.

I didn’t know his name so I referred to him as “white shirt guy.”

We danced within close proximity of each other and he bumped into me once or twice. I think this is what passes for “intense physical contact” in the NZ nightclub setting.

I asked him what he did for a living and he said he kept the city safe and clean.

“So, you’re Batman,” I said.

One of his friends was dancing near us and he had tiny girl wrapped around him. At one point her tongue was in his ear.

“He’s probably going to rock her world for a full two-and-half-minutes later tonight,” I said to him.

I was wrong though, a few minutes later the girl had disappeared and his friend retreated back into the safety of his male pod.

I excused myself at one point and went off to reapply my lip gloss in the ladies room. When I came back, white shirt guy was chatting up some other girl. Apparently, any bit of warm estrogen would do—And to think I was actually moved when he said, “Tell me more about your thesis.”

I danced with A1 and A2 for a bit and noticed an older man of a solid farm working build making his way toward me.

“No, nope, no!” A1 said swinging me around and putting herself between us. The farmer shrugged and lumbered off toward the bar.

White shirt seemed to rediscover my existence when our group left the club for another venue.

I walked down the sidewalk with him and his luckless friend on either side of me and they said something snarky about the way I spoke English.

“Well I was told you Kiwis speak English too but I’ve heard no evidence of it,” I snapped back.

At this point, a few of our group wandered off while everyone else decided we needed to catch some taxis and go to a casino.

I quietly told one of the A2 that I had a car but I guess this fact escaped the larger group.

After waiting a bit longer for a cab that never came, I mentioned my car again.

“Well why didn’t you say!?” they all exclaimed.

The back seat of my borrowed car is meant to comfortably seat three adults.

We crammed in four.

The experience caused a brief flare-up of homophobic tension which was only quieted after I threatened to put someone in the trunk.

White shirt sat next to me so he could give me directions.

“Make a lift,” he said.

“I think you want me to make a left,” I answered.

“Yis,” he said.

Christchurch is a bit of a mess after the earthquake of 2011. I had to wind my way through some precarious one way-streets with a heavy construction presence and this was made all the more challenging by the fact that one of the guys started calling me “a Canadian” and another one pulled the head rest off the passenger’s seat.

“You broke it good, eh?” white shirt said.

“I feel like we’re more connected when we talk now,” his mate replied thoughtfully.

White shirt turned back toward me then and, after a moment, he reached out and stuck his finger in my ear.

“What the hell was that!” I yelled.

“It’s called a wet willy only I didn’t lick my finger,” he said proudly.

I dropped the group at the casino and announced that I was going home.

White shirt tried to get me to come in but I said I couldn’t. He asked if I needed help getting home and I said I didn’t. He said I was a bit of a “hard case” and I said I had no idea what that meant.

As soon as I got home I pulled out the Kiwi phrasebook my school gave me.

Hard case: A tough but likeable person; an eccentric person

To recap; my experiences with the opposite sex in this country have involved  one guy insisting that I run my fingers over his crooked clavicle (last year) and another sticking his finger in my ear.

I was telling my neighbor about this and she said she would get on the internet and research the gesture to see if it was some new thing the kids were doing nowadays.

“Tell me what you find,” I said, “I might be betrothed now and not even know it.”

*Title taken from The Smiths song, “How Soon Is Now?” 

A Breakthrough

I asked one of the instructors from my university why it was so hard to make friends with people in town. He said that most of the people in this country get to know each other in grade school and then they stay friends for life.

I figured I was screwed.

In the U.S. it has become rare to stay in one place for your whole life so this sort of friend-making method isn’t common.

I went to see a doctor at the school’s clinic because I felt like I was having some adjustment issues. I ended up telling her about my small town non-romance and which she found highly entertaining. The lady who runs the local hardware store has become somewhat of a confidant and she had a similar reaction. “That is so small town,” she said.

My male PhD supervisor had an even more eloquent response and declared most Kiwi males to be “emotionally constipated.”

I’ve been getting into some DIY projects around the house to keep myself busy.

I put together a night stand a few days ago and I went to a city hardware store to buy some paint for a bookshelf on Monday.

I was surprised when a man there glanced toward my feet and said, “Those are some pretty flash gummies.”

It took me a minute to figure out that he was talking about my purple and black gum boots. 

At the register the girl ringing me up asked me what part of the U.S. I was from and told me she had visited Massachusetts last year.

I was feeling so happy at being spoken to that I marched confidently down the sidewalk toward my house and decided to speak to a neighbor who was digging around under some shrubbery.

“Hello!” I said brightly.

“Oh!” she exclaimed, making the universal startled gesture of a hand across the chest.

I introduced myself and we spoke about the fact that are kids are in the same grade. She was very nice and said we should go do some lawn bowling sometime after downing a few beers. I said that sounded great.

The next day I went to a gas station and asked the young fellow working there to help me figure out the pump. I was a little disgusted with myself for acting so helpless but he was very friendly and smiled at me whenever I looked at him. His fingers brushed mine when he was showing me how to use the pump and I saw that they were black with oil and grease. I thanked him for his help and he grinned and said “sweet as.”

Yesterday I was walking to the library when I heard a nearby construction worker singing. He had a lovely voice and when I looked at him he said, “Morning!” in a cheery voice. The greeting made my day.

I feel like I’ve been nursing a serious case of hurt feelings and was teetering dangerously close to pitching a hissy fit in which I stamped my foot and yelled, “Why don’t any of you like me?!”at some public venue.

I’m glad it never came to that. I’ve gained renewed hope in the mate-finding process.